Professor gives tips on love
By Izzy Anderson - Staff Reporters
You can maintain a healthy romantic relationship all year-round and not just during Valentines Day, a Highline professor said.
With Valentine's Day right around the corner, psychology professor Teri Tomatich offered some insight on relationships, perspectives on the holiday, and tips regarding a persons love life.
It is very important to stay attentive and to keep in mind that relationships exist outside of special holidays, she said.
"I think it might help to remember that you don't have to wait until you have a 'holiday' to show affection for someone you care about. Nurturing a loving relationship, be it romantic... familial, or friendship takes good communication, trust and attention year round," Tomatich said. "The little things you do everyday can make the difference, well beyond the grand gesture on Feb. 14th."
Tomatich, who teaches a human sexuality class here at Highline, said that this romantic holiday might be a positive or negative experience for individuals.
"Some people might like the idea of a day to celebrate and express affection that feels particularly romantic, while other people are really put off [because] it seems to have become so commercial… People [could] feel pressured to buy something for a sweetheart," said Tomatich. "[Others might feel] left out because they are not in a romantic relationship with anyone."
To keep the love going 365 days of the year, Tomatich explained two key components to a good relationship: open communication, and consent.
"Enthusiastic consent is where it's at. If you aren't sure if someone feels the same way about you as you do about them, you need to pay attention to their body language and their verbal cues… [do not] assume they are on the same page as you," she said.
"It's ok to ask, it doesn't have to be complicated," Tomatich said. "It just takes some good communication skills and willingness to listen and respect their response."